Heal Depression, AfDD/Cassandra Syndrome
I used to be all of these things- even excitable and giddy, at least before getting married (and gaining weight but that’s another topic, lol)
I want that girl back and this is is the year that I’m going to do it, I’m going to heal depression by working at it as hard as I can.
My deepest needs in marriage are to be heard and understood on an emotional level, and quality time (with being heard and understood mixed in) and because hubby is Alexithymic, he cannot fill my love tank the way that I need it to be filled.
If you haven’t read the 5 love languages, it’s a wonderful book that you should read– or at least check out his website so that you can better understand your marriage and why things may or may not be working out. It will tell you why your love tank or your partners may or may not be getting filled up. The author is a Christian, but the message is still very helpful.
Begin Healing From Depression or Cassandra Syndrome
Okay- I’m going to begin with self-esteem and confidence since you can’t have one without the other. If you’re anything like me, you’ve got low self-esteem already and have your entire life.. Or maybe just since school years when kids were mean as hell because you had ugly shoes and hand-me-down man pants that you had to lie and swear that they were girl pants even though you knew better.
(weird, that was strangely specific)
Let’s start there- I’ve got a few books lined up to read and I’ll share them with you- I certainly don’t hold the magic ticket here, but I can point you in a potentially useful direction.
Here are the books that I’ve found that look promising- If you click any of them and make a purchase, I get a very tiny commission price at no cost to you. (and you help me stay in the program, lol)
the last book you can get for free if you have Kindle Unlimited- if you don’t, you can grab it here, 30 days for free if you click the banner below-
I will say that I’ve read the last book a while back and I remember it was really good and kept me pumped for a month until I slid into old habits since they die hard and all.
I think I’ll start with reading that one again and hey, it’s cheap or even free if you grab the offer above, just don’t forget to cancel before your month is up or they’ll charge you. Ask me how I know.
Other ways I plan to heal my self-esteem & Depression from Cassandra Syndrome
One of the ways that I handle my depression is eating a bunch of junk food- I talked a little more about this in my post “Confessions of a Binge Eater” I was super pumped to get with the program back when I wrote it, but I’ll admit that I didn’t follow through with anything big until now.
Lots of foods these days are linked to depression and feeling crappy like prepackaged foods, wheat etc.books on the subject of mind/body relationship
this one is big actually. I’ve done programs in the past and I really do have better self-esteem when I’m exercising and taking care of myself in that way. It’s hard to explain, even if you just go for a small walk around a block or so, you’ll notice a change, I can almost guarantee it. One of the easiest (once you get the hang of it) and cheapest workouts that I love to do is Walk at Home with Leslie Sansone. 12 minutes and you’re done!
Here are a few of the options she’s got right now.
workout DVD’s from Leslie Sansone If you have any questions, I can help you- just email me
- Fresh Air and Sunlight-
oh so vital. I am a hermit and I tend to stay in my house all. the. time. and I rarely see the sun or even know what the weather is. How sad is that!? This is one of my main goals for this year and it’s a two-for-one because I’ll also spend more quality time with my kids and hey- teaching them to be active too. This day in age where screens are in every kid’s hand by the age of 2, that’s big!
- finding like-minded friends-
I’ve got a few friends that I can talk to and I don’t know where I’d be without them.
Keeping it all bottled up inside isn’t healthy for anyone and I know my friends motivate me to get out of the house or to stop wallowing in self-pity which I do tend to do since my living situation is so far from what I’d love for us to have that it’s not even cool.
- Buying Cute Clothes-
I don’t know about y’all, but I do NOT take care of my appearance, especially having children. 6 of them.
I like for them to look as cute as finances (and practicality) will allow
.In the meantime, I own one pair of pants and maybe 2 shirts that I have to stretch to fit my fat ass before I can even wear them comfortably.so- as I lose weight from doing a better diet and getting fresh air, I need to take care of my clothing situation and you might do so too. Imagine how cute you’d feel if you finally got yourself a cute pair of shoes or something outside of the activewear clothing section!
- Stop all bad habits as soon as you can-
I’ve got a mean monster drink addiction- sometimes 3 a day. I use it as an anti-depressant on top of my actual anti-depressants. Its probably killing me slowly and in the end, it’s not doing me any favors. I’ve got to face my feelings and so do you- instead of burying my head deep into my habits.Stop drinking, smoking, pot, etc.. You think they are helping you but they’re actually worsening the very thing you’re trying to cure. I know it’s hard- I’ve been a smoker, a drinker etc. It’s not easy to give it up- maybe seen therapy while you’re doing this.|
- I’ll keep this one short- GET MORE SLEEP! I get plenty of sleep- too much even, but that’s because I’m not on a regular schedule. I know, even though I like to live in denial about it, that if I went to bed at 10 and got up at 6 every single day on the dot, I’d feel more rested and in turn, better all around. what say you?
- declutter and organize, minimize even!
I am a HUUUUUGE proponent of living a minimal lifestyle and I’m sure I’m going to blog about this in the past- I call myself the opposite of a hoarder and I’m sure Dr. Google could diagnose that for me and give it a name too, but I’m not gonna look that up right now because I’m happy with this little part of my life. I cannot stand clutter or trying to find a place for something that really doesn’t have a place or an item that I’m tired of putting in its place. lol. I’m actually about to throw out my blender for this reason, or at least put it in the garage with the rest of the junk I’ll probably never touch again- just in case, you know? Get stuff out of your view and out of your physical way! Your mind is cluttered enough without having to walk around dumb shit and without there being so much stuff on your cabinets or desk that you don’t even know where to begin cleaning.I also hate there being stuff everywhere just taking up space in my mind. There is enough there already.Here are a couple books on that topic- books about minimalism- check them out
Help Heal Your Depression by Keeping Your House at least Minimally Clean
this is the last thing I’m going to touch on for today- keep the main things done.
I’m not talking about keeping your house sparkling, not even close when you’re depressed that’s not going to happen, but I want to give you permission to tell yourself that IT’S FINE AND EVEN GREAT if your house looks lived in, BUT.
Please keep the main things done. by that I mean the big household tasks that really keep things running- for me that is bathing the kids (and self of course, lol) laundry and dishes. Nobody is happy if they’re using the end of an ink pen to eat their cereal, amirite?
None of us are functioning on any sort of productive level if we have to search for 45 minutes for clean underwear, mmkay? Do what you can to keep these things done, even if i means recruiting your husband, kids, mother in law, friends, I don’t care, do it for you!
That’s it for today- I’ve gotta go get the laundry taken care of, but can you think of other ways to heal depression? Are you already on the road to recovery and want to share your story with me or the world? Email me and we’ll discuss what you’ve found! I’d love to hear from you